Hi, I’m Ilana —
Embodhied Awareness Mentor, Health Counselor, Soul Seeker, living in Arlington, VA.
I keep coming back to these questions:
Does life truly need to be a grind to be valuable?
Can thriving be more than just surviving?
What does it mean to be free?
Hi, I’m Ilana —
Embodhied Awareness Mentor, Health Counselor, Soul Seeker, living in Arlington, VA.
I work with overextended women, who have realized that they have lost a connection with something deep and true within themselves.
I know this story well, because I have lived it.
How I got here…
For most of my adult life, I lived with low-grade, chronic stress.
I was always pushing myself too hard and overthinking even “good” goals like eating “clean,” exercise, and work/family balance.
My body sent warning signs, physical symptoms of burnout, and my doctors advised me to “manage my stress.” However, I was living the “right” way, so why was I still so “wired and tired”?
The first turning point was the day I was back in a doctor’s office with escalating stress symptoms of adrenal dysfunction, fatigue, and anxiety. By her facial expression, I knew that my doctor had given up on me. There was nothing more, medically, she could do for me.
The second turning point was progression into a gut dysbiosis that literally forced me to stop, reset my digestion, and rest for six months. It was the one time in my life I believe I nearly died.
And almost dying is a powerful wake-up call and motivator.
These health challenges set me on a journey of deep, sometimes painful, self-discovery. I learned that my imbalances had a powerful root, overlooked by medical doctors - undigested, unexpressed emotion and fear, which came from grief, loss, and other peoples’ expectations for my life (real or projected).
Reconnecting With My Purpose…
During this time of imbalance, I underwent a powerful spiritual reawakening.
I reconnected to my center - my joyful Self - a part of me that I was well aware of as a child.
Over time, I had lost my connection to this Self in a rapid succession of life events: frequent moves, back-to-back corporate job promotions, marriage, a “geriatric” pregnancy, leaving the corporate world to be a full-time mom, marital separation, family deaths.
I leaned into the practices of Ayurveda, energy work and Reiki, yoga nidra, classical meditation, mindfulness, and permaculture, all of which came easily to me like a memory. In the stillness of practicing these wisdom traditions, I found my purpose and the space to digest emotions and experiences. I gained the courage to slow down…a LOT…and not to wear “busy-ness” and “overwhelm” as a badges of honor. In stillness, I learned to be fully aware of the joy that thrums in my body and all creation, in spite of life’s challenges. I regained my health and resilience.
Today, I practice Awareness or Presence - moment-to-moment listening to my Higher Self and being fully aware without attachment to outcomes. My practice is a lifelong evolution, not a state of arrival. My effort is not perfect, just consistent. Daily, I experience growing joy and peace in this Presence, which is the loving companion I have sought my whole life. And I find guidance, peace, and resilience in the face of life’s challenges, setbacks, losses, and circumstances.
I started Bodhi By Design to give back the lessons I learned from turning challenges into growth.
I don’t want other women to feel broken or that they have to just settle for surviving their life.
I study, live, and teach Ayurveda, classical meditation, diet and lifestyle design, mindfulness and nervous system regulation. I work with women on-line and in-person to help them uncover the diamond of joy, peace, love and wisdom that is their core being and birthright.
You were born to thrive!
A Peek Into My Life
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Ever since I was a child, I felt a connection to something that was both deep inside me and also present in everything in the universe. I have come to understand that each of us is a spark of the Infinite that is having a human, animal, plant, mineral, star, etc. experience.
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I had my daughter late in life. And one thing I realized within her first two years was that being her mother was going to be one of the greatest efforts of my life. Raising my daughter is part of my purpose and a core life lesson: learn, embody, demonstrate and learn to receive unconditional love in a family setting. Being her mama requires that I remain present and aware when I am with her, because she watches and absorbs every single word, thought, and action I put out.
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My travels as a kid took us all over the United States (Hawaii, California, the East Coast) and to Okinawa, Japan. I hated moving so much at the time, but later appreciated the maturity and perspective it gave me on the diversity and beauty in different cultures, humanity, and nature. Moving also laid for me the foundation of introspection, adaptability, self-reliance, and being observant.
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As a kid, I wanted to be a figure skater, but never lived near an ice rink. So, I roller skated everywhere - to school, in my cul de sac - as much as possible. Many years later and living near multiple ice rinks, I took up ice skating at age 52. Every single time I step on the rink, I have to conquer fear. I also feel supreme gratitude that, after years of burnout, I have the energy for such a deceptively hard sport. Mostly, the little girl in me gets giddy when she remembers what it feels like to fly.
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Permaculture Designer, a.k.a. grower, urban wildlife habitat manager, food forest advocate, nature’s observer. It is my joy to mentor others in how to create spaces that mimic nature’s intelligence. My urban yard serves multiple purposes - not only is it appealing to the eye, it is also a habitat for wildlife, sequesters carbon dioxide and water runoff, and provides various fruits, nuts, herbs, flowers, seeds, and vegetables for my human and animal family.
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“Healer” is not a title I gave myself, but is one that was given to me. Since I was a child, I intuitively knew ways to help others feel better. Depending on the day or situation, I am a spiritual counselor, Ayurvedic Wellness Counselor or Nutritionist, Reiki master, meditation teacher, keen listener, advocate, peace maker, kisser of “boo boos,” or writer.
My superpower is helping others to see their potential and light.
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I started knitting a few years ago as a way to channel excess creative energy, while relaxing (and make some neat clothes). Knitting teaches me patience and non-attachment to outcomes, especially when I have to unravel and re-knit weeks or months of work.
Just for Fun
Life Path: 11/2
Love Language(s): Acts of Service, Cooking, Words of Affirmation
Astrology: Capricorn Ascendent
My Values and Mission
Honesty and integrity are the foundation of Bodhi By Design and my life. I share with you what is possible as you work towards awareness and wellness, based on personal experience and what I have learned from mentors, clinical studies, and classical texts.
But there are no guaranteed outcomes to my services since each person is unique in experience, desire for change, and willpower to participate.
Read about my Values, Vision, Mission, and Qualifications for more information on what the practice of Bodhi By Design is to me.
Additionally, see my Services & Safety Disclosure to clarify what awareness mentoring is and is not.
Now…Tell Me About You
Tell me about your struggles and your vision for your life. Schedule a free initial 45-min conversation, the first step towards a life of purpose and renewed well-being.